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It's Not Me It's You, And Other Things You Don't Ever Want to hear
The truth hurts, but I think it's about time we put on our big girl panties and deal with it. Our country is out of whack and I feel like it's because we've gone soft.
There was a time, dare I say "back in the day", when people were honest. Parents were honest with kids and people were honest with each other but now it seems everything must be sugar coated and toned down or our inner child will end end curled up in the fetal position rocking back and forth and weeping inconsolably.
I recently did a show at a college where a group of students got offended that I said Honduras was a poor country, um....have you been there? because I have and guess what...IT IS! My boyfriend goes with a medical brigade every year to bring necessary medical supplies to Honduras but some students who I am willing to bet have never set foot in that country nor are they themselves Honduran got offended at the truth. If they wanted to be offended they should maybe have been offended by their lack of action to help out a country in need BUT NOOOO Let's all get upset at someone dropping a little knowledge.
Okay okay I'm done, my point is that a portion of these (I say a portion because most of the students were very cool and enjoyed the show) students that were offended got me thinking of all kinds of truths that people have trouble hearing and I thought let me do my part to save humanity from an all out "Wussification" by putting these truths out there and some words of wisdom on how to deal with them. I'm only gonna throw 3 your way so don't stress....Let's get Started
And now a cute Ferret picture to help ease you in....
1) It's not me it's you
Guess what, every single one of your failed relationships might just be your fault (gasp) "but...but...this self help book says.." yeah yeah yeah I get it no one wants to tell you but you make really really REALLY bad decisions on who you date. Maybe you always get cheated on because you date girls/guys WHO CHEAT! Stop putting the blame on others they have their own issues (which I will get to in a minute) to deal with. Take a long hard look at your history and be honest with yourself. Now how to deal with this, most people who are "Hopeless Romantics" or as I like to say "Hapless Romantics" will say "The heart wants what it wants" no the heart wants what the brain tells it it wants. So the next time you are thinking of getting involved with someone how about paying close attention to how they behave, what their romantic history is, are they relationship hoppers? going from one thing to the next or are they long term people. Taking the extra time to actually think about it can make a world of difference.
2) You have lied, cheated and hurt people
Yeah you did, and maybe you got caught, maybe you even made it seem like the right thing to do at the time so you felt no remorse and you continue to do the same thing. Do you know that famous quote by Albert Einstein about insanity? He says Insanity is "Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" and i have to agree. What about your repetitive crappy behavior has EVER worked out to your benefit? You're not a crap person but your a person who has done crap things. Now people like this usually either feel some remorse and hate themselves or they justify it like "Well such and such did this or that to me so he/she deserved it" whether you fall under Column A or B, I say to you "GET OVER IT!" Okay you did a crap things or a few crap things, deal with what is really going on in your head and in your life before you look back on all the burnt up bridges and realize you built a life based on regret. It is actually pretty darn easy to not do crap things if you are willing to face what is really going on.
Still with me....
3) You're life isn't where you want because of bad planning
Now before you start a laundry list of excuses as to why you couldn't do what you needed to to get your life where you wanted it let me just stop you. Your life has probably been full of these excuses, How do I know this, first hand experience. I made a lot of excuses for myself being broke and not where I want to be in my career and the truth is I made a whole lot of wrong choices and didn't think things through. I never really had a plan, just a dream. Don't get me wrong dreams are great have them try and achieve them but by all means do not mistake a dream for a plan, they are not the same thing. It's hard being a "Field of dreams" type "if you build it they will come" person and putting together a plan it takes a lot of work that isn't fun or dreamy. You have to do your research, where do you want to take your life and who do you know that has taken their life there and how the heck did they do it?
So you might be thinking "Gina What makes you the expert?" well, I'm not. Truth is I may not have any idea what I'm talking about, all I can do is tell you what has worked for me. There are a lot of truths I had to face throughout my life and it wasn't easy but it was definitely an improvement. It's your choice to try it or not, choose wisely
One for the Road...