This might completely shock you; so I hope you’re sitting down. Are you ready? I’m not perfect. I know, I know, I was shocked too. Believe it or not there was a time in my life where I went around thinking that all was good and I was flawless. Well maybe not flawless, but I certainly had no idea the amount of flaws I had. Here’s the thing, we are all flawed, even the most perfect, scratch that, there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unrealistic goal, however an achievable goal is to urn to desire and to strive to be the best you possible and that starts by figuring out and admitting your flaws.

         The first step is admitting you have a problem, that’s what they say in addiction meetings and it holds true for life in general. The first step is really looking at all the things in your life that aren’t where you want them to be and being really honest with yourself as to why. Take note that I said being honest with yourself, meaning that just because your career is not where you think it should be does not mean that you turn around and say it’s because of this person or that person and not look at your own drive or work ethic. Are you really working as effectively as you can? Do you try to better yourself by the day? Is your goal to make more progress and get further every day? Or do you sit and hope or wish or try to use your “mind” to “will” things to happen instead of actually making the necessary moves to make them happen. I’m not saying you shouldn’t believe in yourself, you absolutely should but then set realistic goals and be honest with yourself.

       I spent years blaming other people for my lack of success saying things like “oh they’re racist” or “they just don’t like me” when the truth is I was refusing to look at the situation and go “oh I need to that to get what want out of this” instead I said “no I’m gonna do want I want and to hell with them if they don’t like it”! Not exactly the winning or right attitude. What I should have been doing was listening to the smart people around me who said things like “change your outlook” or “be realistic” sometimes that stuff is not easy to hear but if you can get over your emotions and deal with the logic in those statements you can get further. For myself, personally, I have recently done a lot of figuring out and dealing with my flaws, which include but are not limited to:

• Procrastination

• Stubbornness

• Laziness

• Fear of both success and failure

• Childishness

• Jealousy

     And many many more I’m sure! But I no longer let these things get me down. Admitting my flaws and the things that have been holding me back has only helped me to deal with them and acknowledge when I am the cause of my failures. I wish I could say I came to this revelation all on my own, not the case, it was my boyfriend who lives by this philosophy of doing something daily that betters himself. He has no problem pointing out my flaws or his own, and him pointing out my flaws doesn’t make him the bad guy,

    although at first it was hard, it makes him someone looking out for my best interest. So maybe you have someone in your life that tells you all the things you don’t want to but need to hear. That’s not to say if someone is telling you what crap you are you should listen to them, but if you know someone who is extremely successful and they are trying to tell you what you are doing wrong and you refuse to listen or choose to act like you are flawless, well then be prepared to stay EXACTLY where you are. If you take anything away from this let it be that you are not alone in your imperfection; that we are all absolutely, without a doubt perfectly flawed.